So, lets start off by addressing the elephant in the room…(sarcastically speaking)
“Ma’am where have you been and why has UniqueSheIs been MIA for the last week/two weeks?”
Well here it is ….I’m figuring it out just like you sis …To say the least, life in 2020 has been the equivalence of a bold toddler acting out in the grocery store (Lol). Just doing what it wants, when, and how it wants and I’m the embarrassed parent in line 10 gathering my thoughts in utter shock. I know I’m not the only one that 2020 has showed out on (CLEARLY) but nonetheless, here we are!
And I think it’s time for a check in!
We know the saying “make sure you check on your strong friends” but right now we need to make sure we are checking on anyone we call a friend and not just waiting for people to check-in on us. So as one of my favorite influencers Ms. SJR likes to say “How have you been?? Have you been drinking your water?? Have you been minding your business (controlling those stress levels??) Have you been servicing your body??”. We have to start asking ourselves and our sisters these questions more often because sheesh, sometimes life is so hectic that an already thought out sanity checklist is needed just to even get started.
I was watching a web series on the OWN Network the other day (I will include their premier preview below) and it was so good! A bunch of girlfriends coming together and just checking in with one another. And it was so good to see sisters reflecting and processing with one another that it made me want to step my game up as a sister-friend during these times.
It’s needed! And there’s no age limit restraint, we need to process what is happening to and in our world. To have that safe space, bringing vulnerability, and allowing your sisterhood to not only minister to you, but you to them as well, it’s referred to as the “Ministry of Presence”. Tanja Taaljard breaks it down even better, she says, “Women instinctually know how to nourish each other, and just being with one another is restorative.” She isn’t speaking from what she heard, that comes from experience. Just our very presence can minister healing and love to a sister that is struggling even if we can’t relate or understand, listening ears have the power to heal and restore.
We all know what it’s like to have a listening ear and finally say some things out loud that you’ve been holding back or thinking on for a while; it’s not until it’s been said from your own mouth to someone you trust that you can see/call out the foolery or even just see it with a clear lends and perspective. That’s what we need more of. And I’m writing this from a guilty place myself of needing to do better with reaching outside of my own selfish ways when it comes to my sisterhood and my own personal world to be an olive branch for my sisters, but with the start of a fresh day, it’s something that I’m intentionally putting towards the top of my list and today I encourage you to do the same.
When was the last time you reflected and processed some things out loud with your tribe of Sister-Friends?
When was the last time you were the listening ear for your sisters, allowing them to process and reflect?
At the end of the day we are all hanging in there, 2020 so far has been one hell of a bizarre movie we can’t turn off but keep your head up and take care of every piece of what makes you, you. And after you have scheduled some time to indulged in God’s presence, journaling, wine, a face mask, toner, and moisturizer (can’t forget that), and you feel refreshed and able to process the day, call your sister and check on her, make sure she is doing what she needs to do to stay sane even if it’s as simple as having a good laugh with you (it’s a special kind of soul medicine).
We are a community, a tribe, and a sisterhood for such a time as this. I mean really, they didn’t create a show about it for no reason *Logs off singing the “Girlfriends” theme song*.
Love You Sis.
Girlfriends Check-in :
Prayers, Strength, & Love to the family of Breonna Taylor, George Floyd, and Ahmaud Arbery . Our hearts mourn with you.